Have you ever given someone a loan before? We all have. Did
that person return the money when he/she promised to do so? Some did, but many
did not. I make bold to declare that we all have had more experiences of people
defaulting on their debts than liquidating them. There are even instances where
debtors pretend to have forgotten that they owed someone
or downright refused to repay.
One would think that with the decay in moral values
regarding money today in our society many would be careful with their hard
earned money. Sadly this is not the case. Many of us are suckers for a good
“person in need” story.When you also consider that it is those who are close
to us who come to us it can be extremely difficult to say no. This is Africa;
we are known for being our brother’s keeper.
The painful part is that many people experience
disappointment as the funds are not returned as at when due; or alternatively
they are returned in so many small and delayed installments that the money ends
up being frittered away because it is no longer substantial. One can never
become rich by constantly depleting your savings to help others.
This is precisely one of the major reasons why there are
squabbles in many families. Negative emotions begin to run riot in the minds of
creditors when their loved ones default…anger, hatred, disgust and
disappointment. This is definitely not healthy. Money happens to be one of the
major reasons for divorce and disaffection in many families.
One also needs to stop trying to play trying to play the
role of banker in the lives of your loved ones and associates. The banks are
extremely knowledgeable when it comes to the business of granting loans and
have put systems and procedures in place to ensure they recover their money.
Sadly the same cannot be said of you. You would be well advised to leave the
business of giving loans to them.
A more satisfactory approach would be to give anyone that
asks you for a loan a cash gift instead. Give them an amount that they do not
require to pay back. Ensure that this is an amount that you can afford to give
away. This frees you from the feeling of guilt that may arise if you completely
ignore pleas and cries for help.
Giving cash gifts is actually one of the secrets of the
wealthy. They do not invest substantial sums into the lives of others in the
form of loans, rather they give what they can afford, thereby putting their
funds into more profitable ventures.
Set aside some funds monthly for this purpose in your budget
which can be termed, “Donations & Gifts.” Tell everyone that comes that it
is your personal policy not to give loans; rather you give donations which they
do not have to repay. There is almost no one who would refuse to get something
for nothing. They will take the gift and go to someone else to give them a loan
and you will still be in their “good books.”
The more you invest into ventures that will grow your wealth
the richer you will become. No money earned is ever enough so we must plug all
the leaks and loopholes and free up money for investment. If one spends all he
earns or loans out his savings poverty will be the end result. Stop this unwholesome practice today and begin to see a
wealth exchange transfer come into your life as you invest the freed funds
wisely!
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